“Self-care” seem to be all the rage, social media is full of memes like “You can’t pour from an empty cup…..take care of yourself first.” but how many of us are actually doing this right. Taking care of your self is a lot more than occasionally grabbing a bit of “me time” just before you completely lose the plot, or collapse with stress & exhaustion.
You must first be able to love yourself in order to truly be able to love other people. If you aren’t comfortable in your own skin, you can never be truly comfortable with others. If you don’t believe you deserve to be treated well, you will start to attract people who match that energy and who don’t treat you well. And as for ego, the more you feel good about yourself, the less you feel the need to show off or act in any ego-led way.
This is an amazingly complex topic. It is in fact, essential to love yourself to lead a fulfil life, yet there is a delicate balance of how much. Too much loving yourself can become self-egoism, ‘I am the centre of the universe’ to all the way of being narcissistic, then there is selfless love as a conscious choice all the way to ‘I am not worthy of love, not even from myself’. And somewhere in the middle is that perilous tight rope of ‘just about the ‘right’ amount of love’.
Vanity or Self-centeredness or self-love?
Positive Living Coach claims it is essential that you have self-love as it is how we are meant to feel about ourselves. It is the key to loving others. Unfortunately, in our consumer orientated society the outside beauty of individuals is far too often seen as hugely important. We use much time and money on hair, clothing style and make-up.
Are Aphrodisiacs a myth or a reality? Do Aphrodisiac foods improve your sex drive and stir up hormones? Most people would like to improve the level of their sexual desire, sexual performance, and maybe fertility. Many articles, books, and guides have been written about the human sex drive. These publications contain suggestions and exercises, and many recommend certain aphrodisiac foods to stimulate the libido. There are as many viewpoints as there are books. You probably have your own thoughts on the subject.
‘I AM’ transcends all emotional and mental states. The ‘I AM’ holds only one emotion – Love - pure unadulterated unconditional love.
So, when is it that we stopped loving ourselves – really caring and nuturing, appreciating ourselves? When did we start taking ourselves for granted, pushing ourselves to our limits? When did we stop taking the time to pat ourselves on the back for achieving something?
The full Moon lunar eclipse on the 10th brings the Sun and Moon into opposites; Sun in Aquarius and Moon in Leo, highlighting family, friends and home. The visible bold moon is blotted out by the Earth, representing a re-setting of emotions and clearing away any old emotions that no longer serve you. This phase lets you take a look at your close personal relationships and work on balancing them.
Valentine’s day is associated with love, red hearts, flowers, and chocolates. It is frequently thought of as being just for couples. For single people this can be one of the toughest days of the year but whether in a relationship or single, nobody should neglect self – love. Self-love is so important. To love others, we need to love ourselves too. This lets us experience the positive emotional states of love, joy and gratitude and enjoy life.
The Holistic Life Coach
Holistic & Natural Solutions for Health and Wellbeing