“Self-care” seem to be all the rage, social media is full of memes like “You can’t pour from an empty cup…..take care of yourself first.” but how many of us are actually doing this right. Taking care of your self is a lot more than occasionally grabbing a bit of “me time” just before you completely lose the plot, or collapse with stress & exhaustion.
You must first be able to love yourself in order to truly be able to love other people. If you aren’t comfortable in your own skin, you can never be truly comfortable with others. If you don’t believe you deserve to be treated well, you will start to attract people who match that energy and who don’t treat you well. And as for ego, the more you feel good about yourself, the less you feel the need to show off or act in any ego-led way.
This is an amazingly complex topic. It is in fact, essential to love yourself to lead a fulfil life, yet there is a delicate balance of how much. Too much loving yourself can become self-egoism, ‘I am the centre of the universe’ to all the way of being narcissistic, then there is selfless love as a conscious choice all the way to ‘I am not worthy of love, not even from myself’. And somewhere in the middle is that perilous tight rope of ‘just about the ‘right’ amount of love’.
Valentine’s day is associated with love, red hearts, flowers, and chocolates. It is frequently thought of as being just for couples. For single people this can be one of the toughest days of the year but whether in a relationship or single, nobody should neglect self – love. Self-love is so important. To love others, we need to love ourselves too. This lets us experience the positive emotional states of love, joy and gratitude and enjoy life.
The Holistic Life Coach
Holistic & Natural Solutions for Health and Wellbeing