Vanity or Self-centeredness or self-love?
Positive Living Coach claims it is essential that you have self-love as it is how we are meant to feel about ourselves. It is the key to loving others. Unfortunately, in our consumer orientated society the outside beauty of individuals is far too often seen as hugely important. We use much time and money on hair, clothing style and make-up.
‘What matters most is how you see yourself’
I invite you to turn this view 180° and look at the inside of any person, including yourself. We are all beautiful deep inside in our soul. Most of us are far too busy trying to be who we like to aspire to be or who our friends might want to accept.
This misconception leads to so much self-doubt, loathing, hate or dissatisfaction. Through the work, I do as a positive living coach, my ultimate aim is to teach my clients to look into a mirror and say: “I love YOU, I really truly love YOU”.
“The real mirror is to see yourself without judgement” (to quote A.H. Almaas)
It is alienating for most people to feel or even say “I love YOU”. If we are not able to love who we really are; our inner child, no sports car, pricy clothing or latest smartphone will achieve that either. Louise L. Hay, an American author, who 40 years ago, started “Mirror Work”, wrote a book known world-wide as the “the little blue book”: “You can heal your life”. She healed her own life from being a sexually abused teen to an adult with cancer to becoming the best-known self-development author in the world. Today at 90 she still works and loves herself!
‘Smile in the mirror. Do that every morning and you’ll start to see a big difference in your life’
I have created a short programme for clients to find self-love; based on my own personal experience and also using some ideas from Louise Hay together with thoughts from our UK Happiness Guru Dr Robert Holden, who created the Happiness Project 21 years ago. Working through a programme of six hourly sessions, you will gently be guided through exercises and learn how to turn negative emotions into positive affirmations. You will be helped to change the misguided and negative fixed images you have had about yourself since you were a small child. It is possible to re-connect with the beautiful, innocent and remarkable baby we once were, admired and loved by everyone around us. By practising self-love and learning to truly love yourself on the inside you be able to find happiness as:
“Self-love is the realisation that “I AM LOVE” (to quote Tom Carpenter).
‘Happiness is when what you think, say and do are in harmony’
The Holistic Life Coach
Holistic & Natural Solutions for Health and Wellbeing