As of late, I have had a number of students and clients who have been working through the challenge of climbing the insurmountable mountain of perfection. The general feeling of fatigue, exhaustion and self flagellation of constantly doing and not meeting their expectations OR not doing due to the fear of not meeting expectations, have dimmed the light on these beautiful vibrant souls.
Striving for perfection stops us from Being the best that we can be.
For as long as I have been on the spiritual path, I have heard the wisdom of those talking about the ‘I AM’ Presence – our Higher self, our Monad or God self. The mighty I AM is defined as our unique and immortal true identity and, as I have found, personally and with clients, has been within us the entire time. We are our ‘I AM’ presence.
Our ‘I AM’ selves are already perfect. The ‘I AM’ is the God-sense within – and therefore, in human terms, has the A+ in the report card. All the other parts of us have to do is to acknowledge, realise, and embody our ‘I AM’ part. Then, we can truly BE the best that we are.
The quest for perfection stems from trying really hard to compensate from a perceived lack from within. This could be something that is fed into us by conditioning, or it could be a life challenge that we have chosen to learn in this incarnation.
When I was a child of nine, I had a friend who used to come to school with cane marks all over her legs, because her mother would whip her if she did not get the perfect score in exams, or was the top student. My friend would always try her best, but she was always so wracked with fear for being punished for not being perfect. At worst, she froze, or she never could perform her best.
The quest for perfection is counter productive to Being the Best that we can Be.
Now, by society’s standards, she is successful. However she is always self critical, self judging and is never happy or satisfied with her accomplishments because they are never perfect. In her mind, she is an abject failure, working herself to the bone to keep proving herself. Whilst the wounds on her legs have long since healed, the scars in her heart are still as open and raw as the day she’s got them.
There seems to be an illusion that there is a marker for Being the ‘perfect’ person, to get the ‘perfect’ results, to be the ‘perfect’ mother / father / employee / child / spouse or any other label that we can think of. What is this marker of ‘Perfection’ and who has set this marker?
The marker of perfection is a creation of society. We have all been conditioned to meet certain pre-set markers that have been set – yet this an ever - changing marker. The one standard in Absolute Perfection does not exist, and it is an elusive goal. Yet, the perfectionists beat themselves up for not meeting this goal. In the beating of themselves, they do not see how truly magnificent they and we all are.
Perfection is marked by our Ego Selves. Ego is conditioned to believe that perfection avoids judgement and criticism from self or others. Working from Ego, we do not embody our own Divine resonance from our ‘I AM’. ‘I AM’ does not judge or mark perfect or imperfect. ‘I AM’ is just about Being the most divine part of ourselves, and allowing that resonance to filter through every fiber of ourselves.
When we change Being Perfect to Being the Best that we are, we see and acknowledge All that We Are. We allow the Light of our individual ‘I AM’ selves to shine at our brightest. Everything that we do will carry our Divine Resonance.
‘I AM’ the Best that I Am.
Yes you are!
The Holistic Life Coach
Holistic & Natural Solutions for Health and Wellbeing